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another school shooting happened today and i’m just too upset to write a full blog.  it seems the policy makers don’t care one bit about youth.  how many more precious children need to die?  it’s a disgrace.   i’ve said it before, we have to care about our youth and partner with them to find solutions to these tragedies.   For more of my thoughts on this click on my blog post below from January 2013.

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most of my posts have been about optimism, positivity and enjoying life. but today i’m angry and i’m not going to fake it.   

as a woman of color i’m often attacked by all the negative media images, false stereotypes, bias and unequal treatment.  i usually focus on rising above it. i know it’s important not to let the hate of others get in my way.   but this week was different…

you may have heard the news about a black female yale student who had the police called on her while she was taking a study break nap from finals in the common area of her dorm.   when i heard, it stung so deep.  it’s taken me a few days to find the words.  i’m a prof and on a campus all the time.  i know how important it is for college to be a safe place, so you can learn and transition into the adult you are meant to be.   as a yale grad, i remember the common areas. they are like living rooms and supposed to me you feel like home.  to think that was snatched away from this student, who could have been me, is surreal.   

some people are saying what’s the big deal.  the police came, she showed her id and all is good. but it’s not…she may never feel safe again. she may never be able to breathe into her true brilliance because someone else’s ignorance tried to steal her right to be there.  i’m hoping the young woman is able to rise above this and becomes stronger. but i know to do that she will have to face all the anger, hurt and pain. that situation and all the many others we have been seeing lately are a big deal. such as the black women who had the police called on them at their own golf course for playing too slowly or the black woman who was violently arrested by police at a waffle house for asking to speak to the manager and the list goes on.  those women will have to move through painful feelings and so am i.  

facing anger will allow me to deal with it. and when i deal; i heal.  healing…that’s what i hope for the student at yale, for all women whom others have attempted to take their humanity away from, for all of us. let’s face our anger and become better together.  

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#AvaDuVernay created a movie that is best of all time.  based on the novel, A Wrinkle in Time, is fantastical and fun.   the story is so thoughtfully and deeply told that i’m still processing how much it moved me.

mostly i’m in awe of the 13 year old character, meg, played by storm reid.  she’s distrustful, awkward, fearful and unsure of herself.  but she’s also fiercely loyal to her family, intelligent and courageous.  her flaws are not weaknesses. they are present to help her. the key is that she lean on her strengths and not let the darkness win.  

i fell in love with how human a hero she is.  that’s why i’m crowing her a queen.   she’s become my role model for living a life knowing i don’t have to have it all figured out. but i can have faith that in the end i’ll be able to bring it ‘home’ with a glorious triumph.

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spring is here and it’s time to renew.  the first step is to get yourself in order.  

order as in putting yourself first.  

here are my tips for teen girls on self care in this spring’s issue of sesi magazine.

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hands down my favorite part of the Black Panther movie was watching the Wakanda warriors.  viewing the fierceness of those goddesses gliding across the screen was pure magic.  

i loved that they exuded femininity without being overly sexualized. they draw upon their physical and mental strength. they showed their humanity as well as power. multi-dimensional, soulfully led and wickedly brilliant; all qualities one would expect from an armed force led by women.  

$800 million and counting in profits means Black Panther has lit up minds of many people world wide to seeing what women warriors could look like.   i say we move from imagining to making it real.  wakanda warriors, stand up!

shout out to BET for producing a great awards show this past week showcasing up and coming social media players.   i was blown away by the poetry performance of Amanda Seales, honoring the glorious and all things fab of Black girls and women.  check it out…

 

showtime really nailed it with the set of mini shorts on sexual harassment.  the shorts carefully and skillfully documents the toxic ways in which harassment shows up.  if you find yourself in these situations or any other sexual harassment experiences, contact the national sexual assault hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673).

 

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