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#AvaDuVernay created a movie that is best of all time.  based on the novel, A Wrinkle in Time, is fantastical and fun.   the story is so thoughtfully and deeply told that i’m still processing how much it moved me.

mostly i’m in awe of the 13 year old character, meg, played by storm reid.  she’s distrustful, awkward, fearful and unsure of herself.  but she’s also fiercely loyal to her family, intelligent and courageous.  her flaws are not weaknesses. they are present to help her. the key is that she lean on her strengths and not let the darkness win.  

i fell in love with how human a hero she is.  that’s why i’m crowing her a queen.   she’s become my role model for living a life knowing i don’t have to have it all figured out. but i can have faith that in the end i’ll be able to bring it ‘home’ with a glorious triumph.



spring is here and it’s time to renew.  the first step is to get yourself in order.  

order as in putting yourself first.  

here are my tips for teen girls on self care in this spring’s issue of sesi magazine.

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hands down my favorite part of the Black Panther movie was watching the Wakanda warriors.  viewing the fierceness of those goddesses gliding across the screen was pure magic.  

i loved that they exuded femininity without being overly sexualized. they draw upon their physical and mental strength. they showed their humanity as well as power. multi-dimensional, soulfully led and wickedly brilliant; all qualities one would expect from an armed force led by women.  

$800 million and counting in profits means Black Panther has lit up minds of many people world wide to seeing what women warriors could look like.   i say we move from imagining to making it real.  wakanda warriors, stand up!

shout out to BET for producing a great awards show this past week showcasing up and coming social media players.   i was blown away by the poetry performance of Amanda Seales, honoring the glorious and all things fab of Black girls and women.  check it out…


showtime really nailed it with the set of mini shorts on sexual harassment.  the shorts carefully and skillfully documents the toxic ways in which harassment shows up.  if you find yourself in these situations or any other sexual harassment experiences, contact the national sexual assault hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673).


imagestyra banks is back and the re-up is good.   the show which is on vh1 has the most diverse set of models in terms of race, size and age. one of the models has alopecia, which is a type of hair loss that occurs when your immune system attacks hair follicles. her strength and courage to face her hair loss is inspiring.  then there’s the 40plus year old mom who is rocking it like the gorgeous diva she is.  by showing us the many ways in which women are beautiful, ANTM feels better and fresher than ever.


imgresi’m also loving a new show on lifetime, making a model with yolanda hadid.  at first i felt this was just another thoughtless reality show.  yolanda (a former super model) helps aspiring teen girl models understand the industry. the twist is their moms are on the show with them.  i know what you are thinking.  sounds like drama! and drama there is…BUT what i like is that it showcases how the moms support of their daughters is key to the girls doing well.  if the moms talk to the girls in a positive way the girls do good. when they communicate with one another with love and support the shoots go better.   when the moms allow the girls to show their true selves, they radiate more in their photos.  it’s so telling how much the relationships between the moms and girls make all the difference in their success. it’s like that saying, ‘you are only as good, as the company you keep.’  

even though both shows may seem like clones of the same thing, they are different and really good.  definitely worth checking out.


i’m not feeling all this talk about oprah running for president.   it’s not clear she’s stuck on this idea but let’s go with the media circus and assume she is. as i took this morning to reflect on the life and legacy of the great Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, i felt sure that she shouldn’t.

please don’t get me wrong; i love oprah.  she is greatness personified.  and perhaps at another time when our society is in a different place it would work. but not now.

one of things that made MLK so great was that he was and still is the moral voice to our country’s soul.  he pushed us to think about where we stood not only by what we said but our actions.   his speeches called us to do more than say (or tweet) we want peace. we have to BE peaceful too.   he showed us through his marches how to BE a loving ‘fighter’ for justice.  

if MLK was president i’m not sure it would have had the same impact.   his calling was as an outside agitator.  his calling was to wake up our internal voices, so our external voice would speak up for the good of humankind.  which brings me back to oprah.

she has lead our country and the world by calling us to look deep within and discover our purpose.  to ‘live our best lives’. that role to me is much more important than president.  her voice and other voices of conscious like MLK, awaken us to become ‘presidents’ of our own lives.  they implore us to evolve into better people and with better people, we have better families, better communities; a country and world that is better.  

we don’t need oprah as president, we’ve got ourselves.  as the great MLK stated…


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