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Sage’s Rage: When I see u I see myself

Posted on: November 14, 2009

precious 11-09i’ve been going back and forth the last few days about the movie Precious with some folks on a list serv (that shall rename nameless).   apparently the bloggers and pundits are going crazy because they feel the movie is stereotyping black women.    they are outraged and so am i…

i’m upset because i believe the movie is brilliant and can’t understand their bickering.   the film speaks volumes about the lives of so many girls across the country and worldwide (black and all other races).   so often we don’t like to face ugly facts about what the world is like for many girls and young women.  we are often the victims of violence, abuse and shame.  movies like Precious force us to see what society allows to happen to children.   why do we get angry at the person/artist that’s only mirroring the truth?  

okay, so there are probably not a lot of people who have experienced that many types of abuse and trauma.  so what, it’s not a documentary!   what i saw was a girl as a composite of what so many have been through.   Precious is me; she is all of us who are trying to break through unfortunate circumstances, low self-esteem and hatred. 

i was blessed with an opportunity in october to facilitate a workshop for teen girls that was part of a screening of the film sponsored by The Mary J. Blige and Steve Stoute Foundation for the Advancement of Women Now, Inc. (FFAWN).   nothing could have prepared any of us for what transpired.   it felt like an out of body experience as we watched the movie together.  a small panel of women including myself and Mary J Blige sat and shared our thoughts about the film.  as we passed the microphone around, girls and young women shared and spoke from the depts of their souls.

we were all so greatly touched by what the movie represented.  we were all in awe of how strong and powerful Precious was.   i have no doubt that there were lives that will never be same after watching the movie and participating in that discussion.    Precious is changing and may even be saving lives.  how could these bloggers and writers have a problem with that?

everyone has a right to an opinion so i’ll shout mine loud and clear. stereotyped image or not, Precious is a movie that needed to be made.   when you see it, you feel it, and leave searching inside of yourself because it speaks to a part of you that may have been buried for years. 

when i see Precious i see myself.  there may be pain, there may be sorrow but there’s also a women who has faith, perseverance and a will that is determined to rise above all… 

2 Responses to "Sage’s Rage: When I see u I see myself"

Haven’t seen it yet…but well written. There are always people that are gonna have something negative to say about something. They are typically the ones that stand out (i.e. folks fightin’ healthcare at the town halls).

Looking forward to seeing “Precious” soon. From the bits I’ve seen advertised….I think it’s a wake-up call, and as these situations are exposed, people will look deep within to find their truth…..

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