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Hot off The Press: If Love is Complex, Then Divorce is Complicated.

Posted on: January 24, 2010

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last week i laughed so hard watching the movie

the writers did a great job lightening up the tough subject of divorce and how it impacts the whole family.  i could totally relate, cause i saw so much of myself and my family’s story in the plot (to any dispel any gossip, let me be clear minus the love affair).  

love is challenging and when a marriage ends, feelings are hurt and some people never get over it.  so much so that they remain angry and bitter, passing on the angst to their children.   but then there are other times when the break up is mutual and a couple realizes that they like one another just not enough to be married.  so in a Demi Moore/Bruce Willis kind of way they are there for one another for family functions and to share responsibilities of the kids.   of course there are many variations in between that make family life after divorce so emotional.  

when my parents divorced i was 21 years old.  most people feel adult children aren’t affected by divorce.  but i was totally devastated. i understood why they needed to part ways and honored that decision.  i was more concerned about the pain that i knew each one of the them felt in having to severe their union.   so i cried and cried for weeks on end.  eventually the tears dried up and the fog of sadness went away as we learned how to live together as a family in a new way. with all the complications we were able to get back to be being family because at the end of the day we remember that family (even a divorced family) should be bound together by love.

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