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Ashton and Demi were like Barbie and Ken for many girls and young women.  We loved the fantasy of the young and hot guy with the sexy gal, who have amazing careers, never ending wealth, and seem happy and tan at all times.  We loved the story of the blended family; sharing Thanksgiving dinner with Bruce Willis and baseball games as a united team.    The bubble burst last week when it leaked out that he was cheating on her.  No way….


 It cut like a knife on a wound that hadn’t quite healed since the whole Sandra Bullock and Jesse James fiasco.  It seems like everyone’s love is going in flames.  I had flash backs about my ex, I will refer to as ‘slick rick’, whom I caught red handed wrapping lips with his side swing.  My best friend who was on the prowl with me took me by the hand and whisked me away before I could do damage to whatever part of him or his car I could get my hands on.  I never imagined that my ‘prince’ could do such a thing, to betray me and flat out lie that he was committing to our relationship. 

Fast forward 10 years later and now I’m at the point where I feel like it’s time to get REAL.  Some people do cheat…Wishing for a ‘life ever after’ without facing that fact could place a girl in a dark funk when unfaithful situations transpire.  Go into a relationship with all eyes open.  Pay attention to what your sweetie is doing and less about what they may be saying.  Have they cheated in the past?  Have you caught them in lies?  Do they feel comfortable hiding things from other people?  Are their friends creepin’ around?   If you sense something’s off, pay attention and address it immediately.   Decide what’s best for you and move on.   That’s what Sandra and I did and maybe Demi will do the same too.  If you take the lesson learned, broken hearts can make a girl stronger which is what you’ll need to maintain a real love that lasts…  

i heard on the wendy williams show that beyonce got a hot gift from her husband. the rumor is he bought her a $20 million private island to get away and relax.  i’m not sure if the report is true but i can relate to my Virgo-mate’s need for quiet and peace.

i was really excited when my boyfriend announced he was taking me on a surprise trip for my birthday this past weekend.  we landed by the water in a quiet dreamlike space.   i’ve never seen a more picturesque place; it was breath-taking. even greater was it allowed me to slow down and have peace.  peace turned to joy which lead me to spill over with bursts of energy. i may have been a year older; but my spirit started to feel like a kid again.  i was excited about everything.  with a curiosity like a five year old, i questioned the why’s of little things in life that we often look over in our ‘mature’ years.   it was just what i needed and i appreciate him for making it happen.

that’s why i didn’t for a minute gawk over the fact that Jay-Z spent so much money to find just the right gift for his boo.   as a woman who has achieved so much material and career success; one would think she has everything a person could ask for.  but one thing is for sure…no (wo)man escapes the stresses and dramas of life.  she needs a little down time like the rest of us. her circumstance of fame doesn’t allow her to get to a park or hike through the mountains. some serious dough had to be dished out to get her what we can have every day for little or no cost.  

i’m grateful that i have the freedom to take a break and breathe on the beach without interruption.  and i’m promising myself to honor that gratitude by taking more time to smell those free roses as often as i can…

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