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Brooklyn Borough President’s Office and NY Urban League
invite you to
NYUL Absolute Success Parent Academy: 
A Parent’s Guide to College
Monday October 24th
Brooklyn Borough Hall
Community Room
To RSVP call (718) 802-3530
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  • Comments Off on Hot off the Press: BET Keeps It Real

Last week BET Rap It Up Campaign sponsored, Real Talk with Real Men, a panel discussion moderated by Dr. Jeri Dyson.  The event was held at Morgan State University and was filled with an auditorium of women only. They were there to hear from the guys themselves and get a better handle on the not so easy to decipher male mind.

You can imagine the screams and excitement as the panel which included Raheem DeVaughn, Joe Clair, Sammie, khalil, and Big Tigger among others entered the room.

The guys spoke on the hot topics of love, sex and relationships in a keep it real fashion that caused plenty of wow moments throughout the night.

Dr. Dyson who is known for her frank and sistergirlfriend style kept the panel of energetic men on track.  Comedian Joe Clair had us in stitches with his stories of life getting dissed as the good guy until he met the love of his life whom he married several years ago. The bottom line from him was that sisters are sleeping on the guys that you would want to marry.  I remember the hush in the room as Bishop Derek Triplett of Hope Fellowship Church then urged the ladies to choose men by looking at “What’s in his heart, what’s in his head, what’s in his hand [that is what he can do, not his $ ladies].” 

We learned that Sammie is more than great looks and a sexy voice. He loves to read, he’s into opera, and he travels; so much more than the image that we see. He wants a woman that can match who he is which means we ladies need to make it a priority to work on ourselves.  I say amen because I’ve learned as a ‘woman of a certain age’ that a good relationship requires growth from both partners.

They say never judge a book by its cover. But the guys told us that many men do.  Men know within 30sec-1min, said Raheem Devaugh schooling us on the three categories men may put you in when you first meet.  The category of wifey is had by the woman who knows who she is, has boundaries and the key ingredient is making the man hold to your expectations of how you want him to treat you.  And how do we know if a guy is who he says he is? Just wait around and see, Big Tigger chimes in. Cause men will show who they are, just give it time and pay attention to their actions.

It was a powerful moment for all the ladies in the house. Not only did we get a glimpse of the ‘real’ soul and minds of these heart throb celebrities but we also learned so much. Kahil said it best when he challenged us to use self discipline in the moment; think about what was said and use it to make better decisions. Now that’s real talk…

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Last night many of you had a chance to see the premiere of BET Network’s new sitcom ‘Reed between the lines’.  I’ve been hearing mixed reviews in the virtual world.  I don’t understand what the gripes are about…

In my view, the show is well written and the cast is great! But what I really see as the shows’ success is the obvious movement away from cat fighting reality TV and buffoon-like comedies.

It’s a good old fashioned show about a normal loving family. Have we gotten so whacked out Black America that we can’t find joy in watching normalcy on our screens?

I admit I am totally biased as a Psychologist and Professor because I’m just so happy that TV is showing that we actually exist.  There may not be a lot of Black female Psychologists out there but we are here and just as well rounded and quirky as the show’s character Dr. Carla Reed.

Her image on TV may shape the dreams and self image of so many Black girls and that alone is worth us supporting the show.  I’m pretty sure my office will be lined up next semester with college students who want to become just like her. It will certainly be a change from the droves of students who want to be Forensic Psychologists because of CSI (not hating; just saying, really??)…I digress…

I am urging those of you who second guess the show to take the title at face value and recognize the immense worth it may have for our community.  Join those of us who are fans and continue to support the show

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  • Comments Off on Crowing a Queen Twice: President of Peace

Today it was annouced that the 2011 Nobel Peace Prize will be awarded jointly to President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, Leymah Gbowee and Tawakkul Karman “for their non-violent struggle for the safety of women and for women’s rights to full participation in peace-building work.”

Only 12 women in the past had won the Nobel prize in its 110 year history!  That’s about one every 10 years…This year’s annoucement is a start but I’m looking to see a woman on the flip side of that coin soon!   I am so proud of our sisters for working hard on behalf of women worldwide.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart. 

Earlier this year I wrote on this blog about President Johnson Sirleaf and her excellent record as Liberia’s Head of State.  Here is a repost:

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  • Comments Off on Hot off the Press: Free Youth Event NYC October 8th
Hip Hop 4 Life is putting together a fun and inspiring event in NYC for youth on October 8th.   Please forward to teens and youth agencies to spread the word.
Saturday, October 8th
Doors open: 9:30 am
Event ends: 4:00 pm
John Jay College for Criminal Justice
899 Tenth Avenue, New York City
(between 58th & 59th Streets)
Free Admission ~ Special Guest Appearances ~ Performances
Give-A-Ways ~ Free Lunch
Hip Hop 4 Life’s 4th Annual YOUTHFEST will be held in New York City on October 8, 2011. This year’s theme, “The World Is Yours,” will focus on the importance education, vision-building, college readiness and career planning. We will have special panelists, performers, and cool give-a-ways. 
Best of all, YOUTHFEST is free! 
Young people, ages 12-18, are invited to attend. 
The first 100 youth to register will receive a VIP gift bag!
YOUTHFEST would not be complete without our popular parent workshop, a free day-long session.  The parent workshop is open to the first 70 parents to register and will feature exciting workshops by Kheperah Kearse and representatives from John Jay College.
Download the YOUTHFEST registration form at
We welcome schools, community-based organizations, and faith-based organizations to bring your youth! For more information contact us at

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