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thembisa mshaka is a lady who’s on top.  she’s always in the know and everyone she comes in contact with falls in love with her generous heart and wise spirit.   point blank, thembisa is a force to be reckoned with.  

she is a 5-time Telly Award winner and Promax/BDA Gold Award-winning writer who has served in the entertainment industry for over 18 years.

she is the author of Put your dreams first: Handle your [entertainment] business and writes one of my favorite blogs

it’s no surprise that her fame is international.  she was recently recognized as Ladybrille magazines woman of the  month.  

check out this inspiring interview.

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i’m a sucker for reality tv but i’ve come to realize that enough is enough.  no one believes those stories are really true.   they need to give up the lines about their fake lives.  new storyline please…. here’s a great read from one of my favorite emag’s CherryOnTop about the problem with ‘unscripted’ shows…

Lipstick and Brass Knuckles: Is Reality Television Sending Young Girls the Wrong Message?

Every time my two-year-old niece gets upset, she folds her arms about her chest and scrunches her face until you can see the tension steaming from her nose. All of my attempts to console her while in this state are futile being that whenever I try to offer comfort, she just balls up her little fist and swings as hard as she can towards my torso. She is only two. She can barely pronounce “uncle” without skipping a syllable; her fists are all she knows when it comes to communicating anger. However, behavior such as this is to be expected from a child who hasn’t learned the unforgiving nature of consequences yet. Her near future will be filled with a plethora of time-outs and scoldings until she is mature enough to realize that “hitting” is not how one is supposed to express their feelings, or is it?

Today, if you tune in to any of the more celebrated reality television shows (Basketball WivesLove & Hip-HopBad Girls ClubMob Wives, etc.) you’ll find that many of the women who star in these programs share a lot in common with my niece, and I am not referring to age. The producers of our reality television generation have found gold in pitching concepts that focus distinctly on an all-women cast. The rationale used while choosing such a direction is that women are instinctually predisposed to find conflict with other women, which in turn, makes for good television. Though such a notion at first glance could easily be discarded as sexist, it is these networks record-breaking ratings that grant this statement a certain air of truth.

One reality television starlet in particular who knows the sweat of a rumble all too well is Basketball Wives star Evelyn Lozada. If you tune in to any given episode of the VH1 show, you could probably find Evelyn engaged in either a shouting match with a once proclaimed “friend”, or being restrained from throwing whatever inanimate object she can get her hands on. Recently, a petition boycotting Lozada’s violent outbursts has steam rolled massive support, just as news breaks that the reality show is in talks of being turned into a movie. The creator of the petition writes: “The violence on ‘Basketball Wives’ is horrible and disgraceful. Physical assaults, threats, verbal abuse, and harassment. VH1 is rewarding this behavior by giving Evelyn a spinoff. Don’t reward negative behavior.”

What message are we sending to our upcoming generation of women? When my niece throws her fist at me, I scold her for being a bad girl. Yet, in a few years she will realize that it is by being a “Bad Girl” that offers her the opportunity to live in a mansion for a few months. How do we warn a youth that she’s going down the wrong path when every network is telling her that the road down dysfunction is paved in gold? This is a dilemma that will take more than a “reunion-episode” to fix.

– Timothy Duwhite

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The Rising STARS Summer Program is a six-week program providing middle school girls the opportunity to (i) to play sports and be physically active, (ii) learn important life skills, (iii) participate in healthy living activities, (iv) connect with female role models and mentors, and (v) develop their confidence and self-esteem. 

When:  Monday through Friday, 10 AM – 5 PM
Monday, July 9 through Friday, August 17
Where: Ingersoll Community Center, 177 Myrtle Ave., Brooklyn, NY

Each participant accepted to the program receives a scholarship, which covers all program fees and field trips. 
Lunch and snacks are provided for each participant.
Participants are responsible for their own travel expense to and from the program.

Eligibility and Requirements

 The Rising STARS Program is open to middle school girls entering the 6th – 8th grades.

All applicants are required to:
·         Complete the application form
·         Complete and sign the participant commitment agreement
·         Have their parents/guardian complete & sign the health information waiver 
·         Have their parents/guardians sign the consent form
·         Submit one letter of reference
After applications are received, applicants will be contacted to schedule an interview at the Ingersoll Community Center. 
Participants will be selected on the basis of their applications and interviews.

Applications are due by 5:00PM, Friday, May 25, 2012. (new deadline date)
Click here for the application:
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several things have happened the last couple of weeks that have me thinking about women and leadership. particularly how to encourage and support girls and young women in their leadership development.

1- there was a report released by the institute for women’s policy research that found that in 2010 (which are the most up to date us census records), women made 77 cents for every dollar earned by a man in the same occupation. the institute report states that if things continue at this rate it will take almost fifty years for women to make the same amount as men for the same job! not fair you say…more on that later

2- a Women in the Economy conference was held recently by The Wall Street Journal.                                                                                                   

they had top minds in the room discussing how to get more women in leadership roles in all areas of the economy (CEO, but also doctors, professors, executive directors of non-profits, partners at law firms, head of film/art studios, senators, the president!).  lots of things were discussed including the lack of role models and mentoring for women at work.  but they also talked about the fact that many of these positions do not have flexible tracks for women to get and stay at the top.  in order to be a leader, it’s like a one track system which is not working well for women. not fair you say…i’ll get to that.

3-i recently got a huge promotion (more on that in a later post). at the same time i was so bogged down with work, i couldn’t enjoy the moment.  finally coming out of the fog, i realized that working to no avail is not the goal i nor anyone else should have in life.  as women we tend to be intuitive and focused on multiple areas of our lives.  the luxury of a one track lifestyle is not available to most of us.  so that leads me to ask the question, when are these companies, organizations, schools, governments going to envision a new model of leadership?  when are they finally going to get off the podium, stop talking and actually do something different? please don’t hold your breath ladies…i fear we will all die an early death waiting for the fair approach to happen.

4- so this leads to my final musing for the day…while we are waiting, we as women should be talking, supporting and creating our own way to the top.  we should be sharing with each other the truth of the dilemmas we struggle with at the job.   to burn the midnight hour or to cook that great meal we have been meaning to get to? to take a new dance class or dance our way to a corner office?  

let’s not be ashamed to say we want out of this one type model. let’s be brave enough to lead men into a new way of achieving.  this is especially important to impart on our teen girls and young women leaders of the future.  they will be the voice that will galvanize us to pay equality. they will be the ones to invent new avenues to the C-suite. they will be the ones to look UNFAIR straight in the eyeballs, laugh and kick that glass ceiling to oblivion…so ladies let’s start talking now.

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  • Comments Off on Hot Off The Press: Calling girls and young women to apply for the Women’s Media Center Progressive Girl’s Voices summer program

Girls and young women ages 14-22: Do you want to become a political commentator and strong progressive thought leader in the media? 

Apply for Progressive Girl’s Voices free summer training program. Applications due June 4th.

Progressive Girl’s Voices(PGV) is the premier media and leadership-training program for girls in the country. Representing a range of expertise and diversity across race, class, geography, and generation, participants receive advanced, comprehensive training and tools to position themselves as media spokespeople in their fields, thereby changing the conversation on issues that fill the headlines.

Participating in PGV will enable you to master effective interview presentation techniques and improve your skills to serve as thought leaders in the media. By joining Progressive Girl’s Voices, you will become a part of a powerful network of girl leaders who are changing the conversation on the important issues of the day. Progressive Girl’s Voices starts with a competitive application process, with final candidates chosen by a committee that includesWomen’s Media Center (WMC) Co-Founders Jane Fonda, Gloria Steinem, Robin Morgan, and the WMC Board of Directors.

This year, the Women’s Media Center will train 10 girls from New York City area and the training is FREE. Our NYC training will be held from July 20-22. We are currently accepting applications and will close the application process at 11:59 P.M. on June 4, 2012.  Apply here:

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