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last week i was giddy at the idea of getting to meet famed teen book author Sharon Flake.  she is an amazing writer whose books including The Skin I’m In have changed the lives of many.

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just the thought of getting 1 on 1 time with her had me spinnin’ and scared. what could i possibly have to say to someone so GREAT?   she picked me up for breakfast and i was immediately thrown aback.  she happened to bring up that while growing up,  the way she looked at things were so different she wasn’t made to feel like she could be a writer.  she talked about how she worked in ways that were not the same as others.  ways that were challenging but they were her ways and she honored that. there was no judgement, no regrets, no trying to change…total understanding and self love. i told you she was GREAT!

the very next day i was in a training and we had to take a personality test.   after the test, the trainer went over all the points about ‘my ways’.  i started to feel an ugly shame coming up when she pointed out how much i like to plan and make lists…why couldn’t i just go with the flow?  i cringed when she mentioned my tendency to ask lots of questions. why wouldn’t i just be chill & stop being in the mix?

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i thought back to my convo with Sharon and now i see.  the best strategy is to know your self; your way of being so you understand how to make your journey through life.  NOT to feel forced to change every little part of who you are (unless you are hurting others). i’ve got my querks and i’m getting to know them well. no changing here…

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