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#Netflix aired the movie #NappilyEverAfter this weekend.  the movie stars sanaa lathan, whom i (and everybody else) love!!

it’s a story about a woman who seems perfect on the outside but isn’t happy with herself. the movie goes a layer deeper and explores the conflict that many women of all races, but particularly black women have with our hair. doesn’t sound deep you may say.  isn’t hair just grown out protein jutting out of one’s scalp?

no my dear, hair is so much more than that.  it is a crown of sorts and how we feel about it can make or break us.  that’s why i found the big chop scene in the movie the most powerful.  it reminded me of my journey when in my early 20s, i cut all my hair.  it was not a decision i made lightly but when i did i LET IT GO.

scan2_2_2like sanaa’s character, it wasn’t until i was left with my bald and bare self that i realized what i had done.  uh oh…now i had to find a new way of being in the world. not hiding behind my hair. not fretting over what it did or did not look like. not spending hours or dollars primping and pulling.  i was left with me and therefore needing to look at me, flaws and all.

that’s when the real journey began and it’s been glorious. i’ve since my grown my hair back, relaxed it, transitioned back to natural and many iterations in between.  but that first journey will never be forgotten because it was the beginning of a new me.

that’s why i urge all women contemplating cutting their hair to go for it.  it liberates in ways that will have a profound impact in how you see the world and how the world sees not only you but all of us.  if you’ve done the big chop; give some thought about what it did for you and share your experience with others.

Let’s start a #BigChop movement. it’s so much bigger than hair…

 

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right now I’m typing in my living room taking in the delicious vibes of an ‘herb garden’ downloadcandle which smells like a cross between lavender and orange spice.  this is not just any candle; it’s made with lots of thought and love by Rose Powell founder of Rose and Co. Candlemakers.  Rose is just 11 years old but has a passion for creating aromas that speak to the heart like an old soul.   her candles not only smell good but they are good for the environment (made with natural soy and an eco wick) and society too (proceeds supports girls education through Michelle Obama’s let girls learn initiative).  for going for your dreams at such an early age, we salute Rose Powell as the queen entrepreneur she is.

 

Tomorrow (Sept 2nd) the new movie, Dinner for Two, airs on #TVOne at 7pm EST.  A beautiful love story about college sweethearts.  The story was written by my college friend, Orlando Bishop, who captured the essence of love in this tale.  Who doesn’t love a romantic story of young people falling hard for one another?  Often these stories are total fantasy.  This is not where Dinner for Two goes… It offers the real hurt, pain, twists and turns that often come with long-term love.   The story is soft, sweet and provides a tender pace that captures the amazing bond that actors, Tristan Wilds and Chaley Rose display.  Be sure to tune in.


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