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Tomorrow (Sept 2nd) the new movie, Dinner for Two, airs on #TVOne at 7pm EST.  A beautiful love story about college sweethearts.  The story was written by my college friend, Orlando Bishop, who captured the essence of love in this tale.  Who doesn’t love a romantic story of young people falling hard for one another?  Often these stories are total fantasy.  This is not where Dinner for Two goes… It offers the real hurt, pain, twists and turns that often come with long-term love.   The story is soft, sweet and provides a tender pace that captures the amazing bond that actors, Tristan Wilds and Chaley Rose display.  Be sure to tune in.

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i remember my first few months on yale’s campus as a freshman.  i was called racial insults and it rocked my world. i had heard about racism but never experienced it myself; until then.  

i also experienced a loving community of people from all races and cultures, learning and growing together.  it was both dark and light.  that was the reality of my college life and the life of so many others around the country.  

as many of you pack your bags to get to campus, know that the journey at school can be challenging but the gifts you will get are many.   it could help you grow into the person you are meant to be and lead you to your passion and your life’s work.  just like it did for ashtan towles, class of 2019. check out this netflix video to hear her story.


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as the US reflects on July 4th independence day; i’m reflecting as well.  so much has happened in the country and so much has occurred with me.  i have mixed feeling about it all….  

dark dark moments of anger, fear and despair. but also lots of learning, truth and growth.  i realize that freedom works like that.  it is an earned struggle and the path can feel like a war to discover who you really are.  but you/me/we must get through the fight and march on. 

that’s why this independence day, i’m saluting the discovery of more of myself.  i’ll be watching the fireworks of my life unfolding brightly.  

what ways have you stayed true to who you are?

what have you done to stand more firmly for your desires?

what does it mean to fly your independence flag proudly?

join me today in celebrating our freedom.


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I’ve written many times before about my mentor and friend, Dr. Olivia Hooker.

She is 103 and is the only living survivor of the Tulsa Riots of 1921 (Black Wall Street). She was also the first Black woman to be selected to the US Coast Guard and she was a prominent Psychologist and Professor at my alma mater, Fordham University.   

Dr. Hooker was recently interviewed for NPR. Hear the story of how things happened during the riots when she was just 6 years old.  Incredible story for an incredible woman.

Listen to the 6 minute interview here



Dr. hooker at 6 years old. photo credit NPR

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another school shooting happened today and i’m just too upset to write a full blog.  it seems the policy makers don’t care one bit about youth.  how many more precious children need to die?  it’s a disgrace.   i’ve said it before, we have to care about our youth and partner with them to find solutions to these tragedies.   For more of my thoughts on this click on my blog post below from January 2013.

Previous Blog Post: If the concern is youth violence, why not ask them

most of my posts have been about optimism, positivity and enjoying life. but today i’m angry and i’m not going to fake it.   

as a woman of color i’m often attacked by all the negative media images, false stereotypes, bias and unequal treatment.  i usually focus on rising above it. i know it’s important not to let the hate of others get in my way.   but this week was different…

you may have heard the news about a black female yale student who had the police called on her while she was taking a study break nap from finals in the common area of her dorm.   when i heard, it stung so deep.  it’s taken me a few days to find the words.  i’m a prof and on a campus all the time.  i know how important it is for college to be a safe place, so you can learn and transition into the adult you are meant to be.   as a yale grad, i remember the common areas. they are like living rooms and supposed to me you feel like home.  to think that was snatched away from this student, who could have been me, is surreal.   

some people are saying what’s the big deal.  the police came, she showed her id and all is good. but it’s not…she may never feel safe again. she may never be able to breathe into her true brilliance because someone else’s ignorance tried to steal her right to be there.  i’m hoping the young woman is able to rise above this and becomes stronger. but i know to do that she will have to face all the anger, hurt and pain. that situation and all the many others we have been seeing lately are a big deal. such as the black women who had the police called on them at their own golf course for playing too slowly or the black woman who was violently arrested by police at a waffle house for asking to speak to the manager and the list goes on.  those women will have to move through painful feelings and so am i.  

facing anger will allow me to deal with it. and when i deal; i heal.  healing…that’s what i hope for the student at yale, for all women whom others have attempted to take their humanity away from, for all of us. let’s face our anger and become better together.  



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#AvaDuVernay created a movie that is best of all time.  based on the novel, A Wrinkle in Time, is fantastical and fun.   the story is so thoughtfully and deeply told that i’m still processing how much it moved me.

mostly i’m in awe of the 13 year old character, meg, played by storm reid.  she’s distrustful, awkward, fearful and unsure of herself.  but she’s also fiercely loyal to her family, intelligent and courageous.  her flaws are not weaknesses. they are present to help her. the key is that she lean on her strengths and not let the darkness win.  

i fell in love with how human a hero she is.  that’s why i’m crowing her a queen.   she’s become my role model for living a life knowing i don’t have to have it all figured out. but i can have faith that in the end i’ll be able to bring it ‘home’ with a glorious triumph.


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