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Dr. Scyatta Wallace, Psychologist/Teen Expert, was on BET 106 & Park live 6pm-8pm (EST) for World AIDS Day (12-1-11).  The show will provide education and tips for teens about HIV/AIDS.  

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last night i was jumping up and down, screaming with glee at the tv while watching 106 & park! freestyle fridays  has always been a favorite of mine because it takes me back to the old school days when hip hop was pure and reigned supreme.  normally i’m not so impressed with the skills of the rappers but this year there was blind fury;  the most amazing mc.  he flows with such ease, it’s a delight to listen to the rhymes.  last night he became a champion not just for his poetic ability but he showed us that being born blind doesn’t limit his vision to do great things.   i’ve learned a lot from him, as well as marlee matlin, who is currently on this season’s celebrity apprentice.  she is so dynamic, confident, and smart.  she never allows her physically challenge to stop her from pursuing what she wants to achieve.  

so imagine my awe when i read about Ashley Fiolek, a 20 year old motocross racer, which is a highly male dominated field.  ashley is deaf and is also the two-time national women’s motocross champion.  she became the youngest champion ever and was the first female rider on the cover of a motocross publication (she appeared in Transworld Motocross).  in a Marie Claire article, Ashley states “being a deaf rider, i can’t hear the other bikes behind me.  i don’t know where my competition is on the track until i get to a corner and i can turn and look.”  however, she takes that challenge and turns it into a strength by using the fact that she can’t hear to “shut out the distractions and just think about my goal: to win.”  

Ashley inspires me to do better no matter what challenges may come my way.   she is resolute and doesn’t see limits which allows her to reach higher and higher.   she’s learned to dust off the scrapes and bruises and keep going until she meets the mark.   

are you holding back from a dream, idea, or adventure that your heart desires?  are you allowing a challenge, whether physical, economic, family or emotional, to stop you cold?    make a promise to yourself today to try it anyway. you never know how far you can go…

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earlier this week, i saw a vh1 behind the music special about fantasia.  i’ve always felt she has an amazing vocal talent but i’ve never been a fan.  so i really didn’t know her story.  i was soo moved when listening to her struggle in life, even after success.   but i got goose bumps when she retold the story of getting raped.

while walking through her high school auditorium to skip class one afternoon; a male student followed behind her and grabbed her. he tussled her to the ground and violently raped her.  she was so sick with fury and shame; it caused her to drop out of school.

her story really resonated with me because when i was in the 8th grade, while walking in the halls to get to class a male student came behind and grabbed me.  he pinned me against the wall; i screamed, i punched; i bit so hard that he let go. i ran; just escaping what could have been the worst.   i was sick to my stomach and felt so scared that i could be attacked in what was supposed to be a safe place.  i told my guidance counselor and the boy got suspended from school.  i was lucky that i had a support system; many girls do not.

i’ve never really talked much about that incident let alone blogged about it on the internet. but i felt compelled to say something after being revolted by an episode of 106 & Park last week.  during an interview with R & B singer bobby valentino, he looked a teen girl in the eye, licked his lips and shouted how she looked legal to him.  the hosts tried to let him know that was inappropriate behavior but he just keep winking his eye at this little girl!

i was sick again. those moments that i felt as a girl came back.  it made me fully aware that as a girl and growing woman you are a potential target.   but we don’t talk to our girls enough about protecting themselves and speaking out against physical or verbal sexual assaults.  Those assaults happen all too often and girls need to be prepared with how to deal with it.  i’m urging us to speak up!

-if you are a girl and have been attacked, please find someone you trust and tell.  you are not alone and there many out there who can help.

-if you are someone who has been trusted with information about an attack, be supportive and get that person help.   do not question or show any signs of reservation.  just be there for that person and encourage them to tell authorities.

-if you are a mom or mentor, speak with girls and young women about protecting themselves. they should know not every boy/man has good intentions; be aware.   

-if you are a man; hold your male counterparts accountable for their actions. don’t laugh when sexual jokes are being made about a girl/woman. say something if a friend or colleague talks about verbally or physically sexually accosting a girl/woman.

young women like fantastia, myself, or the girl who was disrespected on 106 & Park had to stay strong and just deal with it.  but hopefully if we ban together and speak up; sexual physical and verbal violence will be gone…

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