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we’ve all done it.  

watched the fighting, laughed at the cursing and gasped at the drama of RealityTV.  

some of us including Wendy Williams have decided to pull the plug on these shows.   it’s not just poor taste. these shows can be bad for you.  

wanna learn how?  

Check out this video by non-profit organization TruthInReality and see how you can make a difference.




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TruthInReality tool kit cover

There has been a lot of discussion about the negative portrayals in the media of women and girls, especially of African Americans.  In particular, reality TV is known for glorifying fighting, bullying and bad behavior.

Janisaw Company was happy to join forces to create a media advocacy tool kit with Truth in Reality, an organization dedicated to challenging the harmful values these shows promote and change the standards of broadcast practices for the reality TV genre.  

The free tool kit is designed for concerned individuals and community leaders to take their outrage and put it into positive action. It was recently launched at the NAACP Image awards.
Click here to visit the website to download the free tool kit.
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this week blogosphere has been on fire due to the cancellation of the reality tv show ‘all my babies’ mamas’ that was set to air on oxygen network.  the show was about shawty lo (rapper) and family life with his 11 children and their 10 moms.

shawty lo 1-13outrage from the community led the show to get nixed this tuesday.   shawty is asking the network to reconsider; stating that the show was unfairly labeled as negative. he said on a recent radio interview that we should give him a chance.  i don’t know anything about the show but i do know that too many of us are tired of the craziness on reality tv.

sil lai abrams, founder of Truth In Reality, wrote a great piece on which states much more eloquently than i can the problem with trashy reality tv.

ladies, i’m urging to you keep the momentum going and learn more about truth in reality and what they are doing to clean up our tv viewing experience.

check them out at

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i admit to watching reality tv. i have my favorites (project runway, the voice).  some shows i have watched and knew i shouldn’t be.  all the fighting, the drama; you get sucked in and then you keep watching!

in the back of our minds, we know it’s no good for us.  it’s like fast food for the brain, no good for our bodies!  i know you agree, i hear it all the time.  but have we really thought about what reality tv is doing to our culture, especially our youth?  

i’m so thrilled that is taking this on as a mission.  this organization started by sil lai abrams (NABJ award-winning writer, domestic violence awareness activist, relationship expert for  is blazing a new trail and we desperately need it!

if you are in NYC on october 30th,  ioin me and an amazing panel as we discuss reality TV, music videos and it’s impact on dating/relationships.  see below for details:

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i’m a sucker for reality tv but i’ve come to realize that enough is enough.  no one believes those stories are really true.   they need to give up the lines about their fake lives.  new storyline please…. here’s a great read from one of my favorite emag’s CherryOnTop about the problem with ‘unscripted’ shows…

Lipstick and Brass Knuckles: Is Reality Television Sending Young Girls the Wrong Message?

Every time my two-year-old niece gets upset, she folds her arms about her chest and scrunches her face until you can see the tension steaming from her nose. All of my attempts to console her while in this state are futile being that whenever I try to offer comfort, she just balls up her little fist and swings as hard as she can towards my torso. She is only two. She can barely pronounce “uncle” without skipping a syllable; her fists are all she knows when it comes to communicating anger. However, behavior such as this is to be expected from a child who hasn’t learned the unforgiving nature of consequences yet. Her near future will be filled with a plethora of time-outs and scoldings until she is mature enough to realize that “hitting” is not how one is supposed to express their feelings, or is it?

Today, if you tune in to any of the more celebrated reality television shows (Basketball WivesLove & Hip-HopBad Girls ClubMob Wives, etc.) you’ll find that many of the women who star in these programs share a lot in common with my niece, and I am not referring to age. The producers of our reality television generation have found gold in pitching concepts that focus distinctly on an all-women cast. The rationale used while choosing such a direction is that women are instinctually predisposed to find conflict with other women, which in turn, makes for good television. Though such a notion at first glance could easily be discarded as sexist, it is these networks record-breaking ratings that grant this statement a certain air of truth.

One reality television starlet in particular who knows the sweat of a rumble all too well is Basketball Wives star Evelyn Lozada. If you tune in to any given episode of the VH1 show, you could probably find Evelyn engaged in either a shouting match with a once proclaimed “friend”, or being restrained from throwing whatever inanimate object she can get her hands on. Recently, a petition boycotting Lozada’s violent outbursts has steam rolled massive support, just as news breaks that the reality show is in talks of being turned into a movie. The creator of the petition writes: “The violence on ‘Basketball Wives’ is horrible and disgraceful. Physical assaults, threats, verbal abuse, and harassment. VH1 is rewarding this behavior by giving Evelyn a spinoff. Don’t reward negative behavior.”

What message are we sending to our upcoming generation of women? When my niece throws her fist at me, I scold her for being a bad girl. Yet, in a few years she will realize that it is by being a “Bad Girl” that offers her the opportunity to live in a mansion for a few months. How do we warn a youth that she’s going down the wrong path when every network is telling her that the road down dysfunction is paved in gold? This is a dilemma that will take more than a “reunion-episode” to fix.

– Timothy Duwhite

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