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  • Comments Off on Sage’s Rage: No Love on World AIDS Day

in my research with young men, every single man that we surveyed who is sexually active mentioned that they are having sex with more than one person. they had a main girl (or several mains) and then shorties.  most of them did not use condoms with their girlfriend/main partner. they all said they would never dare tell their girlfriends about their other partners…and we wonder why there is still HIV?  

each year we take time out to acknowledge those who have been affected and impacted by HIV/AIDS.  i’ve been working in the world of HIV prevention for 15 years.   i’ve met the most courageous men and women who have lived with the virus. they are super strong and keep me going in what is more than becoming an uphill battle.   

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you see many people think that HIV/AIDS is no longer an issue.  they are SO WRONG.

they haven’t heard the countless stories i’ve been told by HIV testing counselors of having to disclose a diagnosis to person after person. HIV is still very prevalent, especially among teens/young adults.

SO what’s the deal ladies? why are you still allowing yourself to be played?   you don’t know who he has been with and you certainly don’t know his status.  so why would you say yes.    if he’s not down with it, he really doesn’t love you.  you are so much more.  

He is NOT worth it….

Say No to sex 

or

Use a condom 

And

Get Tested for HIV and other STDs

For more info about HIV and how to get tested visit

http://aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/

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  • Comments Off on Sage’s Rage: Catfishin’ Bow Wow; Not Cool

catfish blog 10-13

i’ve been watching the tv show catfish for a while now and every time i’m in disbelief.  there was a lot of buzz about the show with the catfisher who pretended to be bow wow in love with one of his fans.   that was a crazy episode.  but i really couldn’t believe my eyes yesterday when i turned on BET 106 & Park to see that the catfish stunter was sitting with her victim AND the real bow wow.  just NOT COOL

the tv show is entertainment but in real life lying about who you are and luring someone into love with a  fake name is heartless.   

you probably could get love by being who you really are.  what is it you don’t like about yourself that you gotta pretend?  

catfishers need watch out because you might get caught out there by someone who decides to press charges for cyberbullying or get you locked up as an online predator.  it’s really not a game.  especially for the victims…

i feel for the innocent person who’s online looking for love only to find out they’ve been lied to and made a fool of.  it breaks my heart to think about all the girls who realized they are crushing on a fake.  

it may be hard to stop catfishing from happening and i’m pretty sure the show will stay on air. but let’s not glorify it like it’s the next best thing to get famous.  people can get hurt. 

stay far away from catfishing by being as real as you can on the internet.

don’t fall for anyone that can’t give you back up about what they say about themselves. 

and never break rule #1

He/she’s not your boy/girlfriend until you get to meet face to face

keep it 100% so you can stay safe!

  

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today, June 27th, is National HIV Testing Day.  the theme this year is

take charge, take the test.

i get asked all the time, ‘is HIV still an issue?’ and the answer is YES;

especially for young women of color.  

you can’t just sit around thinking you’re okay if you don’t know for sure what your status is.

if you took an HIV test a year ago but you have had unprotected sex, you don’t know for sure what has happened since you last took the test.

hiv testing 6-13

to find out where to get tested plug in a zip code here

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today is the last day in february and it’s time for the final installment of my video series about love!

unfortunately love often comes with break ups which are so hard to do

check out my tried and true tips on getting over a heart broken by love

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  • Comments Off on Vlog Time: Help! My parents won’t allow me to date.

check out the next installment of my three part series on LOVE!

this vlog is in response to a question from a viewer who is upset that her parents won’t allow her to date.

check out what i tell her:


valentines day blog 2-13not to rain on everyone’s parade but i really don’t like valentine’s day

it’s soo fake…

i remember when i was in high school i never had a valentine.

i would see everyone walking around with heart shaped balloons, candy and cute teddy bears

and i would have nothing…

so depressing.

years have gone by and i have the love of my life 

but still no valentine

why?

because love is so much more than one ‘blown out of proportion’ day

it’s about every day; how you treat one another and how you grow together

i got soo hot about the valentine hype, i wrote my next video blog about it

my three part series on Love & Relationships

Check out the first installment

 

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  • Comments Off on Sage’s Rage: Is Reality TV ruining our culture?

i admit to watching reality tv. i have my favorites (project runway, the voice).  some shows i have watched and knew i shouldn’t be.  all the fighting, the drama; you get sucked in and then you keep watching!

in the back of our minds, we know it’s no good for us.  it’s like fast food for the brain, no good for our bodies!  i know you agree, i hear it all the time.  but have we really thought about what reality tv is doing to our culture, especially our youth?  

i’m so thrilled that TruthinReality.org is taking this on as a mission.  this organization started by sil lai abrams (NABJ award-winning writer, domestic violence awareness activist, relationship expert for EBONY.com)  is blazing a new trail and we desperately need it!

if you are in NYC on october 30th,  ioin me and an amazing panel as we discuss reality TV, music videos and it’s impact on dating/relationships.  see below for details:


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